- Remember – You are not alone. Ever heard the saying “There is nothing new under the sun” (Ecclesiastes 1:9)? That means someone has experienced, even if just in part, what you are dealing with today. Even if you feel you have no support system today, even if you are an introvert or feel you are a chronic “fail-er”, someone in the world can relate. Find them.
- Remember – Fear has an anatomy, but it is not a living thing. It has parts and pieces, and therefore it can be studied, viewed in relation to other things and demystified. It takes on life-like characteristics with the help of the imagination. What is meaningless to one person, is terrifying to another. The difference between the two individuals is the mental significance of that thing.
- Remember – Fear is a spirit, but can take on the voice of any one or any thing that we give it permission to have. This makes it feel more alive that it is. It can sound like your parent, your sibling, your job, desire for a new one or lack thereof. It can sound like your physical challenge, your mistake or your missed opportunity. It can sound like your past or what you believe to be your future. It can sound like your regret, your heartache or your emptiness. In all cases, those things must ask permission to enter our mind and soul. Therefore, if permission was granted, it can be revoked.
- Remember – Fear counts on us avoiding direct contact. We avoid those things we fear (homeless people begging for money, spiders, heights, bullies, stacks of paper, success-related discipline, small talk). It is in that avoidance that the fear grows in perception, eventually being mentally larger than our actual truth.
- Remember – One of fear’s greatest weapons is deception. That doesn’t mean it’s not real, it just means it is a shadow – it is a representation of something that stands in the way of something else that is based in light (truth). I’ve heard one acronym that describes it well – False Evidence Appearing Real. Whatever you are afraid of – failure, succeeding, being alone, being accepted, being forgotten, not being able to keep up, being irrelevant, not being connected “enough”, being (insert whatever you are afraid of) – it has the potential to be the opposite of what it is to you today.
- Remember – Fear can be purposeful but it is never friendly. For short periods, fear can be a catalyst for positive action. For longer periods and it moves from anabolic (positive, life-giving) to catabolic (negative, destructive) energy draining purpose, potential and function from it’s host.
- Remember – The opposite of fear is not courage; it is peace. http://marshalljonesjr.com/the-opposite-of-fear-is-not-courage/. Pursue peace. Surround yourself with peace. Grant yourself permission to have peace.
- Remember – That which we return to regularly is what we will become. Revisiting failure and staying there eventually consumes our being – it becomes our subconscious thoughts, our language, our brand – our present and our future. It repels, as any scary thing would – in subtle and obvious ways. Visiting new places and giving ourselves permission to move on opens our spirit to what is next and what can be next. Returning to the knowledge of peace opens the heart to self-forgiveness, self-discipline, emotional strength, mental resiliency and productivity.
http://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/how-to-overcome-fear-5-tricks.html
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